Monday, February 11, 2008

Insight and decision

So Friday night 3 of my girlfriends and I went out for a 30th birthday celebration...no kids, but the 2 of us that are turning 30 are both pregnant, so no wild night in store. However, the other 2 turn 30 in Aug/Sept, which just happens to be our 30 1/2 bdays. And the decision was made we are really going to celebrate with a girls' night of spa, hotel, dinner and lots of wine. Hopefully this works out! C seemed a little worried to have the 2 kids alone when the baby is only 3 months old, but he'll be fine! Or there's always my mom who can take one. Anyway, after lots and lots of food and talking and fun, I have had an insight and made a decision. I will no longer stress about friends or friendships. I think they change and go where they want to go. I will no longer worry about why this or why so and so did that or said that. I am going to focus on friendships that are there, friendships that last through many things, and friends that do not picture me as a friend who is only convenient to have at that moment in their life. There are way more important aspects of life, family and friendships. I will cherish what I have, let go of what I don't, and love those that are close. And I just want those 3 beautiful women from Fri to know that I appreciate them and who they have grown into...we're way different than when we were 16, but also so much the same...remember I don't think any of you are old! Especially not 30! :) I can't wait for the next 20 years and many more memories to come.

5 comments:

MSB said...

Very insightful... friendships change a lot... especially when kids become involved. I have found friends drifting in and out of my life recently also... and have been accused of not being a good friend... almost all because of the kids and Jeff being the priority in my life. I have faith that in the end the ones that are still around are going to be the true ones.

PBB said...

i hope you decide i'm worth keeping around!

Lo said...

PB and MB, I love you both! And yes PB, I am keeping you. I have realized exactly what MB said, some go, but the ones that stay are the true ones. Pregnancy sure weeds some out, I will def agree with that....

PBB said...

oh good! you had me a little worried since i haven't seen you in SSSSOOOO long!

well i hope you have a great day! and eat your blueberries. i'm still cracking up that your dad brought you that for you to be healthy! so cute!

TMS said...

Are you saying that you think because you are pregnant your friends are no longer friends? Do you think all your friends are getting together without you because you are prego? I mean we are, having huge keggers and beer bonging, but I just didn't know you knew about it.....